Update

I have written about 5 blog posts in my head this last month, but there has been no time to write!  So here is my best quick effort to update you on our babies being home, healthy, and happy.  WARNING this may be a little scattered.

First some cute pictures:

Photo credit to Kellie Parry

OK now that you made it this far, here are some of the nitty-gritty details.  We made it home on May 24, 12 days after babies were born.  The big girls were still at Odessa's moms house so we had a day to settle in.  After they made it home, school ended 2 days later and we had a crash course in being a family of 6.  Jeff was still able to take some time off of work and was able to be home most of the next 3 weeks.  We are now pretty settled in despite the babies not having much of a schedule.

Babies are now 7 weeks old and doing great.  They are each more than 2 pounds over birth weight and most nights able to go right back to sleep after most night feedings!   We are still up several times a night, but being able to go back down is key.  Odessa has healed VERY well from surgery and is up and active; most days able to prepare 2 out of 3 meals and keep up with big girls summer schedule.  Life is mostly eating around here - in order for babies to be gaining so well that means they have to eat...a lot.  Which means Odessa eats...a lot!  Hard to do all of this in our current heat wave, but we are doing well and investing in many frozen treats!  Good news, Odessa's feet have returned to normal sized, it took 5 weeks for swelling to go down.

We were able to meet 1 goal - our nursery was complete the day before the babies due date.  They happen to be almost 4 weeks old by then, but hey it is done! It is so nice to be able to find everything to take care of them quickly.  It turned out being a conglomeration of memory pieces and things we think are special.  Here is a peak at this special space:

We feel spoiled in this space, it is a luxury we didn't have
 with our first babies.

Final bit of exciting news...we are officially official!

We were told when we adopted our embryos that the final piece of the adoption was having the legal birth certificates in hand.  There was very little risk that the embryos could be claimed by the family who had them created, but the was a possibility that they could seek contact.  With these simple pieces of paper, Amos and Irene are officially Kershners.

Whew what a 10 days!

Our last post was quickly thrown up on "baby eve".  I would now like to recap the last ten days to the best of my memory.  First of all here is how things looked when we went to bed on May 11:

The next morning we headed out at 5:30 in the morning for the hospital.  Even though our birth plan had changed, we were still able to have our 2 labor support friends able to join us - which was a huge blessing.  By 8:00 am I was being wheeled into the operating room.  The scariest time of the entire event was getting the spinal.  No other support person is allowed in the operating room for this time - and there is a needle going into my back!!  I made it through and was soon joined by Jeff and Holly (who was also support person for baby "B" should she need to leave the room).   Because it was a twins delivery and having students present for the surgery - there was about 20 medical folk in the room.  The entire procedure was done in about 45 minutes and was an emotional roller coaster of hearing babies first cries, smelling some odd burning smell that we were told was normal, nausea, and having both babies leave to room (unexpected, especially for baby "A", but we had Kelly right out side the door to follow him).  It was a very overwhelming and fast experience; and truthfully I didn't feel as if I had time to transition from "pregnant" to "mom of twins".  It was a very different experience from the births we had with our older girls - not bad just different and it took longer to wrap my brain around.

Amos was able to leave the nursery within the first hour- after his temperature stabilized- and didn't need any further monitoring.  Irene kept us on our toes a little more.  She got to stay with the friendly ladies in the nursery for a week!  While the babies had been born at 36 weeks gestation, Irene was more like a 33 or 34 week baby (which was the whole reason we ended up having to deliver early via c-section).  She had some trouble stabilizing her breathing and heart rate for a few days.  Because of these issues, eating was also a problem.  The first night was the scariest as we were pretty sure she would be fine, but were unsure if our hospital would be able to take care of her needs or if she would have to be transported to another facility that was better prepared to care for preemie babies.  Our hospital team was fabulous and pulled everything they knew, and were in contact with several other hospitals, to keep our family together while providing the best care for Irene.  Below is how she looked for a bit.

Once she stabilized, they still had to monitor her for several days.  This was a very hard time for me.  Recovering from surgery, while balancing post delivery emotions, while teaching one baby to nurse, while having another baby in NICU, while not being able to be with older 2 daughters (there was a possible chicken pox exposure so they had to stay away) - was enough to drive this Mama a little emotionally overwhelmed.  I don't think I could have done it with out the support of Jeff,  he has been a rock through this really hard time.  

Irene has now been in our room with us for 4 days.  Her moving over meant she was stable, but didn't mean she was ready to go home.  The medical team here wanted her to gain some weight and be able to independently eat with out using the tube (the one in her nose).  That is what we have been focused on since Wednesday.  In the last 24 hours everything has clicked!  She is nursing like a champ and able to take a little fortified supplementation from a bottle afterwards to help her gain weight a little faster.  This morning her NG tube (the one in her nose) was removed!!

Together again!!!

Blessings during this time:

• We were able to attend our girls dance recital (babies had to stay at hospital though)
• My wedding ring fits again
• Odessa's mother has been amazingly flexible and had older daughters through this entire ordeal
• Having a calm time to heal after surgery
• Our great labor and delivery team helped us keep calm during the time of chaos 
• Having a preemie car seat gifted to us so we could take Irene home when the time came (she isn't big enough yet for the one we bought)
• Visitors!!
• Celebrating our 12 anniversary together with our babies
• Having an amazing nursing staff care for our family
• A garden to take a walk in
• Amazing healing for my body
• Being able to keep up with feeding 2 babies and bank milk in the freezer for later

Thank you so much for all of your support and prayers for this amazing and difficult time.  We truly do treasure and appreciate your support.  Many of you have followed our embryo adoption journey from the beginning and we hope you continue to watch how our family adventure continues to go.  While this step is complete - we have the rest of these kiddos lives to watch unfold!

And just because, one more tummy photo 10 days postpartum - 

last minute update

We have been slow to update this blog because we were hoping to put down some real information and not guesses and conjecture.  Well it took several weeks to learn some facts.  We have had days with multiple doctor visits, all sorts of different medical professionals conferencing with each other and us, and lots of changes in plans.
So here is what we know now.  Irene has stopped growing at around 3 lbs 10 oz.  When a baby stops growing there is a limited amount of time in which they can live before the placenta totally dies and they starve or suffocate.  Obviously this is not the ideal situation.  Amos is doing great.  He weighs around 5 lbs 7 oz.  He is head down and engaged for birth.  Irene is laying breach sometimes, or sometimes transverse, or sometimes head down, or sometimes dancing like Michael Jackson in Smooth Criminal.  Both babies are very strong, have a good heart beats, and have been practicing breathing and dancing.

The doctors at several hospitals have told us that we can do an induction to have the babies, but would run the risk of having the second baby get stuck and have to do a cesarean section.  While Odessa's street cred may go up for doing both popular birthing styles in one pregnancy we have decided that doesn't sound fun.

Thus, tomorrow morning at six AM we are rolling into the hospital and having a c. section for both babies.

Please keep Odessa in your prayers.  She has never had anything like this done and is fairly nervous.  Please keep Jeff in your prayers, he's a wimp when incomes to medical things and will probably pass out.  Please keep the kids in your prayers.  They have a rough time ahead of them.

And final note.  We know some of you will want to visit.  Corvallis Hospital has some very strict rules for visiting, so call first.  Once home we will need plenty of rest, so call first.  In case you missed it, call first.  Even if you are Mr.Rogers and Warren Buffett all rolled in together, call first.  Thanks.

1Year Ago, 2 Months From Now

Today is significant in our embryo adoption journey. One year ago today was our first appointment in Seattle. Two months from today is our full term due date. What a year it has been. In some ways the longest waiting time we have gone through, yet it seems to have gone by so fast. 2 months is the longed we will have to wait to meet and hold Amos and Irene; which, again, seems so far away yet coming so fast!


God has been so good to us through this entire process. We have 2 children coming who thus far appear to be healthy. The pregnancy has been more comfortable than past ones. All medical expenses have been covered. We have already had many gifts arrive in preparation for Amos and Irene. Despite all the stress of adoption and pregnancy combined, we are still very happily married and like each other!



We want to thank all of you who have been with us on this journey for the entire time, and those just learning about where God has taken our family this past year. You all add to the blessings we have been given this year.

SHAM I Am

Things are changing around here but it isn't just my belly size!!  Though that is too.

28 weeks ain't too bad from the front, but sideways there is no denying I'm pregnant.

First selfie with daddy

But those were taken 3 weeks ago...I'm not even sure you could call it a "bump" anymore, more of a "mound."  In fact at my 30 week check up, the top of my uterus is at the size of a full term single baby - only thing is I have 5-9 more weeks to go.

31 weeks

Cresting into the third trimester has brought on the dreaded "kankles".

But I truly have wonderful helpers around here.

The big change is...it is official, I am no longer a working (out of the house) parent!  A few weeks ago I had my last day working as a part time administrative assistant at my kids school.  I had been employed there for 3.5 years, prior to this I was blessed with being able to be a stay at home mom for our 2 girls.  I loved being able to work were my kids go to school, but as they have grown and our family has changed with the embryo adoption Jeff and I both felt it was time for me to be a stay at home mom once again.  It is bittersweet to no longer be working.  Oldest and youngest daughter are independent, beautiful little people who are really OK with me not snooping at them at school.  Jeff has been blessed with a job that he enjoys, and which provides sufficiently for our family.  But transitions are hard.  I know the school with continue to run without me, but there is always that "one thing" I didn't get wrapped up.  Truthfully - I am SO EXCITED that I get to be home to raise babies again!  

I'm beginning to look the part too.

In February we were able to purchase a car that actually has enough seat belts to hold our whole family.  This happened  a little sooner than expected because Jeff's work commuter car died on us - like literally the junk yard picked it up from the mechanic dead.  It made more practical since to purchase a family car versus another commuter at this time.  Truthfully - I am SO EXCITED to have a van again, they really are practical, can hold my family, and I can currently still get in and out of it independently.

Another change to hopefully make life a little easier is my hair!

As a friend once put it (who also happens to have dreads), "Dreads are the ultimate mom hair do!"  I'm really starting to agree. I am only about 2 weeks into the process, but am already really happy with the new look.  It can take up to a year for them to mature,  but it is going quite quickly with my naturally curly hair and some hooking techniques both Jeff and I are mastering.  It takes me about one minutes to do my hair in the morning, and a few hours here and there to keep them tight.  The tightening time will also lessen as they mature.  And because I know some of you are asking - Yes, I will still keep up on personal hygiene (shaving, deodorant, ect.);  Yes, I will still wash my hair;  No, they will not stink if cared for correctly;  No, I will not start smelling like patchouli oil because I don't like it.  Truthfully - I am SO EXCITED to have a low maintenance hair style.

And I want to leave you with one more photo because everyone needs a little Spring cuteness in their day.

Currently living in our living room, 4 meat birds and 2 laying hens to add to our small flock rotation (you can count more in this picture, we had a few early casualties.)  Hopefully they move out before babies move in!

Happy Spring everyone, He is risen, and we are so blessed.

Medical Update

The time has come to do a quick medical update on our embryo adoption - boring, but for documentation purposes we will write about it anyway.  Awhile back in this post we mentioned that we were going to be visiting a specialty clinic in order to make sure all things were good with the growth of our babies.   Due to some communication issues, at first the appointment didn't come as soon as we were expecting and then we were rushed scheduled!  Craziness trying to get everything lined up - but it worked!  Here is what we learned:

1.  The growth difference between the two babies isn't a concern at all.  As long as they both keep growing - we are good!

2.  Baby "A" (who we now call Amos) has a slightly small kidney and a spot on his heart where the muscle is denser (which apparently 1 in 10 Asians have, while only like 1 in 100 whites do - who knew).  Again they said neither of these are a concern - but may be something to monitor. 

3.  Lastly, we learned that Amos' umbilical cord doesn't come from the center of his placenta like usual.  It comes from the side, lays along the sack wall exposed, then grows into his cord.  Again, not a concern at this point as all three blood vessels are present in the cord and he is growing fine.  However, it will also be monitored closely.  If the exposed cord stays low in Odessa's abdomen as it is now, and her water were to break it could potentially break the cord and he would bleed out before he was born.  Simply put - if everything doesn't line up right we will be doing a scheduled cesarean for delivery.  Not our preference, but God is good and we are glad we found out about this now and not while in labor.

We have been asked to visit the specialty clinic one more time to make sure each baby is growing at a healthy rate and to monitor the rest.  If all is staying the same, the rest will be handled by our local OB.

As we are getting ready to jump into the last trimester of the pregnancy, we would appreciate prayer for a few specific things.  First that each Amos and Irene would continue to grow at a healthy rate.  Second, that they decide to turn head down and that the placentas move up so we have the best chance at a good delivery.  Third, strength for Odessa as she enters her last month of work.  Many thanks to you for following our embryo adoption journey and amazing support through this adventure.

And They Shall be Called...

It is our great pleasure to introduce you to:

Amos Radagast Kershner

Irene Teleia Kershner

Brought to you by love and science!  They will be making their first appearance this spring to join our family.  More of an update to come concerning the specialist ultrasound and such.  But for now we are signing off as overjoyed and tired!!  Blessings and good night.